BLAMING AND ACCUSING

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Expressing blaming (menyalahkan) 

• "It is your fault this happend."
• "You are to blame for the mistake."
• "This would not have happened if you had listened."
• "You are the reason this is a disaster."
• "You completely messed this up."
• "You have mined everything."
• " You are the one who caused this problem."
• "You are blaming everyone else. But, it is your fault."

Expressing of accusing (menyalahkan)

• "You are accusing me of lying?"
• " I am accusing you of not telling the truth."
• "It seems like you are trying to hide something."
• "I accuse you of stealing the money."
• "You are lying and I can't prove it."
• "I am accusing you of sabotage."
• " I accuse you of deliberately causing this problem."
• " You are accused of negligence, and you are to blame for the damage."

Response blaming and accusing

1. Defensive/Denying:

• "That's not true! I didn't do it."
• "You're wrong. I'm not responsible for that."
• "Why are you blaming me? It wasn't my fault."
• "I have no idea what you're talking about."
• "I refuse to be accused of something I didn't do."
• "You're trying to pin this on me."

2. Counter-Accusatory:

• "If anyone's to blame, it's you!"
• "You're the one who caused this problem!"
• "Don't try to shift the blame to me!"
• "You're accusing me? Look at what you did!"

3. Seeking Clarification:

• "What exactly are you accusing me of?"
• "Can you explain why you think I'm responsible?"
• "What evidence do you have?"
• "Could you please elaborate on what happened?"

4. Calm/Neutral:

• "I understand you're upset, but I disagree with your assessment."
• "Let's discuss this calmly and try to find a solution."
• "I'd like to understand your perspective."
• "I'm willing to talk about this, but I won't tolerate false accusations."
• "I understand that you are upset, however, I did not do that."

5. Apologetic (if applicable):

• "I'm sorry you feel that way. I didn't intend to cause any problems."
• "I apologize if my actions contributed to the situation."
• "I understand how my actions could be seen that way."
• (If you are truly at fault) "You are right, I am sorry, I will try to fix it."

6. Refusal to Engage:

• "I'm not going to argue about this."
• "I'm not going to engage with these accusations."
• "I'm leaving."

Dialogue 

Liam: "Mia, the coffee is spilled. You did it!"

Mia: "No, I didn't! You're blaming me for everything."

Liam: "But you were right there! You're accusing me of lying?"

Mia: "I'm not lying! It wasn't me."

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